Thursday, May 28, 2020

white privilege



The other day I was walking with my kids downtown when we saw a police car drive by. My oldest laughed and waived, the officers smiled and waived back.
I teach my kids to trust the police, to go to them for help. I obviously have white kids. We also don’t live in the US.
I cannot even begin to imagine what it must feel like to have to teach your children that the people whose job it is to protect you, are actually not to be trusted. Because of the way you look.

Thursday, April 2, 2020

220 mutual friends

I watched Marriage Story on Netflix the other night. It's been on my watch list for a while but since watching a whole movie takes so much longer than, say, watching five 30-minute episodes of any random show.... I haven't gotten around to it.
Until now.
It was good. Sad. As I expected it to be. That's another reason I have been putting off watching it. You're not always in the mood to be sad.

I'm not getting a divorce. (that is what the movie is about, fyi)
Dylan and I had a coworker once who said "Divorce sucks. Never get a divorce. Just don't."
She had done it twice. So either the second one sucked way more, or she didn't follow her own advice. I don't know.

Facebook just told me we have 220 mutual friends, my husband and I. That and so much more. You can't just divorce a person, you have to divorce a whole family, a whole life. 220 mutual friends.

I'm not getting a divorce. I think everyone who has ever been married for more than 10 minutes has contemplated divorce. Doesn't mean you want one. But whenever there is a door marked EXIT, you're bound to be curious of what is on the other side. And sometimes think that whatever it is, it has to better. But I don't. Think it has to better, that is.

Marriage Story was beautiful and sad. And in the end it made me feel better.




Wednesday, March 4, 2020

Friends

I live far away from most of my good friends. I go through long stretches of time where I don't communicate with them at all. Then spurts of several long messages back and forth. I know of course that were we to live closer, I still wouldn't see them all the time. I have some friends that live close and it's amazing how you can promise each other to get together again soon and then suddenly realize it's been four months.... but the difference there is you know you could get together, if you really wanted to, or needed to. They are within reach.

But they friends that are out of reach... It warms my soul to read their messages and the see the heart emojis and xoxo's. But it saddens me immensely that that's all we can do.

Monday, November 4, 2019

Oh Sh*t

The second I step inside this morning (just got back from the gym) Lou goes:
Mooooom, can you wipe Ellie's butt?!? She has poop in her pants, I can smell the poop in the my nose!

So could I, and quickly proceeded to change the diaper. Lou was watching over my shoulder, equally disgusted and intrigued.

"She always takes poops in the morning.... So much shit!"

This was true, and I didn't reprimand her language.
There was a lot of shit.

Wednesday, October 9, 2019

BK - This is the difference

I have to go to Italy in a few weeks to attend a training and couple of meetings. Right now we're trying to nail down some kind of schedule and arrange for when we all need to fly in and out. I am looking a draft agenda that would make me busy Wednesday and Friday. Which sucks. My immediate reaction is, of course "so what am I supposed to do all day Thursday, just hang out in Rome!?!"
This is life after kids.
Before kids, I would have been like, I get to go to Italy for work! And, best part is I don't even have to attend a meeting one of the days so I can just hang out and see Rome. Lucky me!

Ah how life changes.

Wednesday, August 21, 2019

I spy with my little eye....

... a working mother on the loose.
I had an appointment downtown and figured it made no sense to ride all the way back to campus for another couple of hours work.
So I brought the laptop and now I'm working from the coffee shop right around the corner from our house. I happened to sit right in front of the window and the way the sun was shining I put my sunglasses on.
Also handy should a family member walk by and realize I'm enjoying hot coffee and a scone. 

Wednesday, July 3, 2019

Happy 4th of July

The smallest American gets to wear a red shirt with white starts and blue shorts to match.
The toddler American gets to wear whatever the hell she wants because I'm not taking that fight. The party is at our house so whatever... she's cold, hot, uncomfortable, she can change.
Mom American ordered a red and white dress which turned out to be much too small, so she's going to wear something else.
Dad American is like toddler American, responsible for his own outfit.
So yeah.... I think Ellie is going to be the only one in red, white and blue.
Oh well.